just a minute, let me check

"You're using sex to express hostility."

That is a line from the Woody Allen film, Annie Hall.

When I read about some of the bizarre games-and-travails of these British royal groupies, it makes me think of that line.

It's like, what are these people using sex,
or -- sexy behavior ("lip-locked" on the dance floor -- whatever...) --
FOR?
What are they using it for?
We think about "making love" as a way to express love.
But none of these people are using it for that.

Andrew Parker Bowles was using random sex with various members of the female population as -- what? Off-the-cuff amusement and rebellion against Society and Marriage...?
Camilla P.B. was using sexy-behavior with the Prince of Wales as revenge against Andrew.
Charles was using sex with Camilla as an escape hatch, or pressure release-valve from his relationships with wife/Princess candidates.

Hmmmh.
Amusement and rebellion.
Revenge.
Pressure-release.

---------------- "You're using sex to express hostility."

Diana Spencer wanted to use sex to express love and have babies with the man she loved.

(Diana wanted four things:
to love Prince Charles;
to be loved by Prince Charles;
to have children with Prince Charles; and
to be happy.

Of the four things she wanted, she got two.)

Later in separation acrimony, Prince Charles said he never loved Diana. He loved her then, tried to be faithful to her, but then the marriage had "broken down" so he went back to Camilla. ...He loved Diana, he didn't love her...he appreciated the sons he had with her, but didn't love her ...
What happened to the promises in front of God at St. Paul's Cathedral?
(??) It seemed to me he was a bit parsimonious with his "love."
And wishy-washy.

AND -- the "sparks" with Camilla were supposed to be so "whoomph-y" -- now he gets to be married to her, his true great love, so everybody should be happy, right?
Wrong.
Reading articles -- Camilla as Charles's wife doesn't like to do the royal duties (which Diana was SO GOOD AT, that she actually ticked off Charles and some of the other royals by simply being so Damn Good At Her Job);
word is, Camilla doesn't like the job and doesn't like to live with Charles at Highgrove, but retreats to her own house 17 miles away, & has food sent over, from the kitchen chef at Highgrove.

The more I thought about having the food sent over, the funnier it seemed.
Uh -- yes -- I don't want to LIVE over there, with HIM, but -- the food's awfully good, send some of THAT over -- right, thanks.

"You're using sex [food] to express hostility."

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{excerpt, Annie Hall script}:

INT. NEW YORK CITY APARTMENT-NIGHT

A cocktail party is in progress, the rooms crowded with guests as Alvy and
Robin make their way through the people. A waiter, carrying a tray, walks
past them. Alvy reaches out to pick up a glass; Robin reaches over and picks
it off the tray first. There is much low-key chatter in the background.

…

ROBIN
There's Henry Drucker. He has a chair
in history at Princeton. Oh, the short
man is Hershel Kaminsky. He has a chair
in philosophy at Cornell.

ALVY
Yeah, two more chairs and they got a
dining-room set.

ROBIN
Why are you so hostile?

ALVY
(Sighing)
'Cause I wanna watch the Knicks on
television.

ROBIN
(Squinting)
Is that Paul Goodman? No. And be nice
to the host because he's publishing my
book. Hi, Doug!

… They move through the rooms, Robin holding a drink in one hand, her arm draped
in Alvy's; the crowd mills around them.

ALVY
(Taking Robin's hand)
I'm so tired of spending evenings making
fake insights with people who work for
Dysentery.

ROBIN
Commentary.

ALVY
Oh, really, I heard that Commentary and
Dissent had merged and formed Dysentery.

ROBIN
No jokes-these are friends, okay?

INT. BEDROOM

Alvy sits on the foot of the bed watching the Knicks game on television.

TV ANNOUNCER
(Off screen)
Cleveland Cavaliers losing to the New
York Knicks.

Robin enters the room, slamming the door.

ROBIN
Here you are. There's people out there.

ALVY
Hey, you wouldn't believe this. Two
minutes ago, the Knicks are ahead fourteen
points, and now ...
they're ahead two points.

ROBIN
Alvy, what is so fascinating about a group
of pituitary cases trying to stuff the
ball through a hoop?

ALVY
(Looking at Robin)
What's fascinating is that it's physical.
You know, it's one thing about intellectuals,
they prove that you can be absolutely brilliant
and have no idea what's going on. But on the
other hand ...

the body doesn't lie, as-as we now know.

Alvy reaches over, pulls Robin down onto the bed. He kisses her and moves
farther up on the bed.

ROBIN
Stop acting out.


ALVY
No, it'll be great! It'll be great,
be-because all those Ph.D.'s are in
there, you know, like ... discussing
modes of alienation and we'll be in
here quietly ----ing.

He pulls Robin toward him, caressing her as she pulls herself away.

ROBIN
Alvy, don't! You're using sex to
express hostility.

ALVY
"'Why-why do you always r-reduce my
animal urges to psychoanalytic categories?'
umh--
he said as he removed her brassiere..."

ROBIN
(Pulling away again)
There are people out there from The New
Yorker magazine. My God! What would they
think?

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