Dial "M" for Mom

I e-mailed a friend about a short article which I found kind of interesting -- about doing homemaking full-time -- and then, after clicking "through" to the original (longer) article that the first article was about (...don't ask...) got down to "Comments" part -- 400 Comments from readers, and found myself hurriedly e-mailing the friend back and saying, Maybe don't read it after all, or at least just stick with the first short article, don't click through to the other one -- so. many. angry. people. ... (?!?)

The article was about "feminists" deciding to quit their jobs and make home-making their full-time careers.  Articles of this type get a lot of people mad. 

As a single person not raising children, I read the first article all sort of -- blissfully innocent, thinking it was about Setting Your Own Priorities -- honoring the activities and values that are most meaningful to you (or me) -- and you know, that doesn't have to be only for parents or feminists or anti-females or whatever -- it can be of interest to Humans.

But the readers who Comment-in, all seemed to be parents -- and it's just -- like a bunch of people whacking each other like piñatas, or something.  (But only whacking with "Comments," not literal physical violence....)

They're, like, super-defensive about whichever way they "do their business" -- if they work outside the home, then that's the right way to raise children,
and if they stay home full-time, then that's the right way....
...reading them, I began to feel, "My goodness, why do people even have children, it makes everybody so mad....!?!...!"

I think maybe the thing is, when people write articles they should just stick to safe, uncontroversial topics like -- war and peace.

No that makes no sense.

Yes it does -- it's that comments and viewpoints about the
very
personal
areas that people Really Care About, and which are Very, Very Personal --

like
the raising of children
and
marriage

will get a bunch of people
madrealfast.

And I asked self, Why?
Because those are the things that are Very Important to people -- people are heavily invested in these areas, and these areas are also the source of a lot of Concern.

(Concern = Fear [??] -- am I handling my marriage right?  Will my spouse leave me at any minute, leaving the future of the children and me dangling in mid-air?
am I a good parent?
if one of my children has a difficulty in any area, is it my fault? - have I done something wrong?...)

It's, like -- too intense.

Realized, in these two areas:
marriage
and
raising family
there's a lot of enthusiasm and happiness,
but also a lot of
concern (fear)
in case things do not go as well as everyone wants them to. ...

Some of the Comments posted urged other Commenters to be kinder, to cease engaging in "mommy wars"...

A couple of people suggested that online magazines run articles such as the aforementioned because they want to "stir up" a "mommy war" and increase "page views."  (Do advertisers buy space on web-sites according to # of page views??)

The "mommy-wars" have been goin' on since the 80s.  Is there any end to it?

A Thought:  OK, the anger (in the Comments) stems from fear (of not doing things right, or of not doing them perfectly enough), and the fear comes from the fact that people love their families so much.
?

So -- like -- LOVE
leads to
FEAR
which causes
ANGER.

????

All this time -- we thought Love was a good thing.

Can we flip that over and find that Hatred leads to good things?

Like, if Love leads to fear which leads to anger,

Then, could Hate lead to courage and then could the courage lead to peaceful joy?

Rrnnhh -- I don't think that works.

OK -- everything.  Is horrible.
(Does that work??)
(For example, re-do the Ray Stevens song, "Everything is beautiful":

[sweet introductory notes]:
Everything is hor - rible,
In its own wa-ay....)

A married woman told me once to not let people push me around about being single.  "Marriage and family is not all it's cracked up to be," she said.  "You do everything for everybody else, but nobody appreciates it...."

A working-outside-the-home wife - mother, about a full-time home-making wife-mother:
"If her husband ever left her, she'd be stuck, then, and she knows that...."
{why are you saying this stuff to me, A, and B -- could you please stop rubbing your hands together gleefully and salivating, at the prospect what's wrong with you ???!!!!?}

and of course that's one of those moments when -- if the Question, "What's WRONG With You??!!" comes in to your brain when someone's Pretend Front slips and the Stuff starts coming out and the phrase What's Wrong with you comes into your head, the truth is, you don't want to know what's wrong with them.  It's just a rhetorical question.  You.  Don't.  Want.  To.  Know.

Too scary -- Alfred Hitchcock movie....
(instead of "The Man  Who Knew Too much") --
The Mommy Who Knew Too Much - !
(instead of "The 39 Steps") --
The 39 Step-mothers - !
(instead of "The Lady Vanishes") --
The SAHM ("stay-at-home-mom") Vanishes - !
(instead of "Foreign Correspondent") --
Foreign Mom Who Corresponded While Working Outside the Home
(instead / "Shadow Of A Doubt") --
Shadow Of A Mom - !

("Spellbound") --
MUAS  (moms under a spell)

("Notorious") --
Notorious Moms
...Dial M For Mom ...

("Strangers on a Train") --
Strange Moms on a Train (if they had stayed home full-time, they wouldn-a been on the damn-train....)

and --
(instead of "Psycho") --
Bates Motel Mom...
...she knocks off a few unsuspecting travelers and then trades identities with her son. ...

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Am not reading any more Internet-journal Comments until I have a ghost-sheet to put over my head, to scare them back, with....

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