The New York Times is having a series of essays called Modern Love. (The "human interest" side of the news....)
The June 30 installment is titled, "Was I Married to a Stranger?"
------------------ [excerpts] ------------- When the lockdown started in March 2020, my husband and I decided to quarantine with our two youngest children, then 15 and 12, at our house on Martha's Vineyard. We arrived on March 15 and settled in for a long stay, unpacking sweaters and boots, textbooks and cellos.
My husband set up his home office on a card table in the living room, rising at 4 a.m. to pace and worry over the markets. He chopped three different kinds of wood and built gorgeous fires....
A week later, on March 22, at 6 a.m., my husband told me he wanted a divorce. He packed a bag, got in his Jeep and boarded a ferry. We had been married for nearly 21 years.
There was another woman, as there often is when men leave. Her husband called me the night of March 21 as I mopped the kitchen floor after dinner and left a voice mail message: "I'm sorry to tell you that your husband is having an affair with my wife."
That night, my husband was apologetic and regretful, saying he loved me and that the affair meant nothing. But by dawn, as he announced his departure, he looked different, resolved. His green eyes were icy.
When he reached New York City, he laid out his narrative: He thought he wanted our life but didn't. He thought he was happy but wasn't. A switch had flipped. He didn't want our house or our apartment. He didn't want any custody of our children.
Before this, I had no idea he was unhappy....
That year he had reached a pinnacle of professional success at work.
He bought a sleek new Manhattan apartment, hired a well-known divorce lawyer, and treated me with a consistent lack of empathy or sentiment. ------------------------- [end / excerpts]
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One Internet comment said,
"He doesn't look like he chops wood."
Another --
"His behavior is classic narcissist.
He love-bombs her in the beginning to get the socialite, accomplished wife.
He has a history of ignoring rules when it suits him, including sexual harassment policies.
He probably cheated all along.
The second he was found out, he fled because his charade crumbled.
He not only couldn't continue to cheat because of COVID, but he would have had to live with the reduced reputation of being found out within the family.
His fragile self-esteem and total lack of feeling made him decide to drop the family altogether.
Big law and finance are crawling with these guys."
The Daily Mail picked up this story. Someone in their Comments section said at least the wife doesn't have to worry about money and she can live in a comfortable Vineyard bolt hole.
The three comments that followed:
~ Is this story news because they are rich? And what is a bolt hole?
~ Can someone please tell me what a vineyard bolt hole is, seriously.
~ A bolt hole is a vacation or weekend place. The vineyard is Martha's Vineyard in Cape Cod.
--------------------------- [Martha's Vineyard is an island south of Cape Cod, in Massachusetts.
The indigenous Wampanoag Indians called it Noepe, which meant "land amid the streams."]
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An Internet site called Lipstick Alley ran the article too.
some of their members' Comments:
~ This is why I support women leaving marriages when they are unhappy. Imagine if this woman left when she realized that SHE wasn't happy?
Stop being a martyr.
You will not be rewarded.
Also, I know this woman is in pain but she'll realize that she dodged a bullet. Any man that can just wake up and abandon all of his responsibilities is capable of doing much worse.
~ after reading the bios, dude pulled a fast one on her ass. she has generational wealth and prestige. look at her bio vs. his bio. of course he married her so quickly! she was going to be his meal ticket into a life he may have observed, but was never a "member" of.
he stayed long enough to get that promotion which ensures he will make enough money to never need his ex-wife again.
~ Dragging your triflin' husband in a NYT op-ed??? IT IS GIVING OPULENCE!!! LOL I love a messy high society drama
~ Women are out here trying to live as the epitome of loyalty and for what? For this?
~ He has the asshole face of a corporate villain in an 80s flick.
~ She definitely provided him access to a world he wouldn't have access to otherwise, which is why she published this article in the NYT.
This is her payback and her way to banish him from these circles; now he is trying to delete every picture of himself online.
~ I just love yt people mess!
Airing this out in the New York Times which all of their affluent friends get delivered to their homes?? The embarrassment, I can't LOL. She got shmoney shmoney!!
~ The thing is she wasn't unhappy, but it doesn't seem like she was happy. She was satisfied with an unexciting marriage to a milquetoast man.
~ Probably resented her and that world all those years. He probably heard comments, those sorts like to point out you ain't in the club, marriage or not.
~ The kind of influence it takes to get NYT to run an op-ed about your divorce simply to air out your husband is crazy. That's not even a paid placement, that's "I know the EIC or a major shareholder" lol. This is wild. Her bio says she's a Vanderbilt so I don't doubt the kind of relationships they have.
~ Her grandfather (by marriage, her grandmother's second husband) started CBS. Case closed.
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